I will be providing three professional trainings on Sexual Addiction this year: August 7, September 18, and on September 25. Although the trainings are oriented for mental health practitioners seeking continuing education credits (CEU's), they also will be informative for the general public. Topics to be included: signs and symptoms, behavior types, levels of addictions, demographics, gender differences, cross addictions, co-sex addiction, assessment, and treatment of individuals with compulsive sexual behaviors and/or sexual addictions.
On August 7 Friday, AATP, will hosting my training on "Compulsive Sexual Behavior and Sexual Addiction" at the Auditorium in Christ Hospital, 4440 W. 95th Street, Oak Lawn. This will be a 6 CEU (6 hour) training, which will cost $95. To register, contact AATP. AATP is a not-for-profit training academy established to provide professional continuing education for mental health practitioners.
On September 18, AATP will again be "Addicted to Sex: Compulsive Sexual Behaviors and Sex Addiction Assessment and Treatment" on Friday, September 18 at Prairie Heart Institute, 619 E. Mason St., Springfield, IL. This also will be a 6 CEU (6 hour) training, which will cost $95. To register, contact AATP.
On September 25 Arbor Counseling Center will host a similar training, but only for three hours (3 CEU's). The training will at Indian Trails Public Library, 355 Schoenbeck Rd., Wheeling IL. The training starts at 9:30 and ends at 12:30 pm. Registration begins at 9:00 am. A registraton form is posted on Arbor's website. http://www.arborcounselingcenter.com," The cost of the training will be $45.
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Saturday, May 2, 2009
The Teen Commandments (For Parents)
THE TEEN COMMANDMENTS(FOR PARENTS)
1. THOU SHALT GET THY ACT TOGETHER AND BE CONSISTENT.
Consistency is the heart and soul of effective parenting. Your inconsistency teaches your teen to misbehave. Teens need to know what to expect. No meaningless threats, no false promises, no random discipline. Mean what you say, say only what you mean and follow through!
2. THOU SHALT BE INDIVISIBLE.*
(* not to be confused with invisibility or birth control.)
Solidarity between parents (even if divorced) is a must. Teens are experts at singling out the weaker parent or playing one against the other. Its “united we stand, or divided we fall.” Don’t be uncool and fight about the teen or his issues in front of him – he’ll feel responsible or see one of you as the hero and one as the villain. Do you negotiating behind closed doors.
3. THOU SHALT LET CONSEQUENCES BE THE HEAVY.
Consequences, not bossy parents, are what make a teen responsible. They are extremely powerful tools to change or modify behavior. Responsibility can’t be taught; it must be given. Consequences can be a payoff for rebellion or an almighty deterrent.
4. THOU SHALT LOVE AND RESPECT THY TEENAGER AS THYSELF.
Your teen is a separate person of equal human worth, not chattel. Treat him the way you’d want to be treated or at least as good as your friends. They who are not busy fighting are busy not fighting (enjoying each other).
5. THOU SHALT ACCEPT THY PARENTAL LIMITATIONS.
Change what you can or should change, and accept what you can’t change (or control). And pray you’ll be wise enough to distinguish which is which for your teen’s sake and your own. (Think of the money you’ll save on aspirin and antacids.)
6. THOU SHALT NOT COVET THY TEENAGER’S RESPONSIBILITIES AND PROBLEMS.
Its enough of a hassle to run one life (your own) much less try and run your teen’s life, too. Your duty to yourself and your teen is to allow him to become increasingly responsible for the consequences and headaches of running his own life.
7. THOU SHALT NOT PRETEND TO BE INFALLIBLE.
Who are you kidding? You’re human. You know it, and your teen knows it. Make your mistakes but be a role model. Own up to mistakes and apologize. Your teen will admire you and overlook your flaws (hopefully)!
8. THOU SHALT NOT BEAR FALSE GUILT.
Don’t buy any tickets for any guilt trips, and don’t let anyone sell you any, either. Don’t blame yourself for things you can’t control or aren’t responsible for. (That’s your teen’s job.)
9. THOU SHALT TAKE TIME OFF TO SMELL THE ROSES.
Ease up. You’re taking this job of parenting far too seriously! Feel free to be yourself. Punch out on the parenting time clock once in awhile. Let your teen see the real you.
10. THOU SHALT NOT BE A SOURPUSS.
You can catch more teenage flies with honey and humor than vinegar and sour grapes. Look for every appropriate opportunity to avert or diffuse a situation through love and authentic humor (but not hidden anger via sarcasm). Let love and humor be your first resort. The family that hugs and laughs, lasts!
Beverly Gual, Teenage Years, A Parents Survival Guide, 1989
1. THOU SHALT GET THY ACT TOGETHER AND BE CONSISTENT.
Consistency is the heart and soul of effective parenting. Your inconsistency teaches your teen to misbehave. Teens need to know what to expect. No meaningless threats, no false promises, no random discipline. Mean what you say, say only what you mean and follow through!
2. THOU SHALT BE INDIVISIBLE.*
(* not to be confused with invisibility or birth control.)
Solidarity between parents (even if divorced) is a must. Teens are experts at singling out the weaker parent or playing one against the other. Its “united we stand, or divided we fall.” Don’t be uncool and fight about the teen or his issues in front of him – he’ll feel responsible or see one of you as the hero and one as the villain. Do you negotiating behind closed doors.
3. THOU SHALT LET CONSEQUENCES BE THE HEAVY.
Consequences, not bossy parents, are what make a teen responsible. They are extremely powerful tools to change or modify behavior. Responsibility can’t be taught; it must be given. Consequences can be a payoff for rebellion or an almighty deterrent.
4. THOU SHALT LOVE AND RESPECT THY TEENAGER AS THYSELF.
Your teen is a separate person of equal human worth, not chattel. Treat him the way you’d want to be treated or at least as good as your friends. They who are not busy fighting are busy not fighting (enjoying each other).
5. THOU SHALT ACCEPT THY PARENTAL LIMITATIONS.
Change what you can or should change, and accept what you can’t change (or control). And pray you’ll be wise enough to distinguish which is which for your teen’s sake and your own. (Think of the money you’ll save on aspirin and antacids.)
6. THOU SHALT NOT COVET THY TEENAGER’S RESPONSIBILITIES AND PROBLEMS.
Its enough of a hassle to run one life (your own) much less try and run your teen’s life, too. Your duty to yourself and your teen is to allow him to become increasingly responsible for the consequences and headaches of running his own life.
7. THOU SHALT NOT PRETEND TO BE INFALLIBLE.
Who are you kidding? You’re human. You know it, and your teen knows it. Make your mistakes but be a role model. Own up to mistakes and apologize. Your teen will admire you and overlook your flaws (hopefully)!
8. THOU SHALT NOT BEAR FALSE GUILT.
Don’t buy any tickets for any guilt trips, and don’t let anyone sell you any, either. Don’t blame yourself for things you can’t control or aren’t responsible for. (That’s your teen’s job.)
9. THOU SHALT TAKE TIME OFF TO SMELL THE ROSES.
Ease up. You’re taking this job of parenting far too seriously! Feel free to be yourself. Punch out on the parenting time clock once in awhile. Let your teen see the real you.
10. THOU SHALT NOT BE A SOURPUSS.
You can catch more teenage flies with honey and humor than vinegar and sour grapes. Look for every appropriate opportunity to avert or diffuse a situation through love and authentic humor (but not hidden anger via sarcasm). Let love and humor be your first resort. The family that hugs and laughs, lasts!
Beverly Gual, Teenage Years, A Parents Survival Guide, 1989
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